In my experience, it’s fifty-eleven times easier to show up for other people than it is to show up for myself. I recieved years of training on how to show up for other people. It’s a large part of my work. It feels like a part of my DNA. Try as I might, I just don’t know how to turn that part of myself off (and maybe that is a fantastic thing). “Showing up” is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot in the communities I’m a part of. What does that mean though? How do you do that for other people? How do you do that for yourself? It is a powerful message of solidarity: no matter what you uncover about who you are, about this mess we’re in, I’m here with you.
People and experiences are meant to flow in and out of our lives. They all have a season, admittedly some seasons are longer than others. So why would I continue to look for any sense of stability in the very things I know are not meant to last forever? The two things that will always be there for me? Me and this earth.
When my worth is rooted in my body: That ass. Those hips. That waist. Those lips. When my worth is rooted in who I am: That mind. That drive. That passion. That integrity. You are more than an arm, a thigh, an ass, a stomach. You are more than eyes and hair and breasts and penciled in eyebrows and smooth legs from shaving. You are more than one thought, one story, one moment. You are more and you deserve more. Let’s use our language to change the conversation, change the thoughts, and change the world.