The last six months have been full of confrontation with myself: my goals, my dreams, my hopes, the imprint of goodness I want to leave on the world, the positions I’m putting myself in that compromise my ability to do that. I’ve known that New York would not be my forever home since December of 2016. Just so we are all on the same page, it is June 2018. So many things happened in that year and a half that made me feel like I should stay, like I had something keeping me here. Maybe I needed all of these things to happen. Maybe I needed everything to fall apart. I decided to move because I had absolutely nothing else to stay for, and that sense of being completely empty meant that I was also completely free.Read More
Feelings will come and go. Thoughts, too, will flow. So, if we remain, even after the feelings, even after the thoughts, that must mean who we are is much deeper than those things. Our contentment is deeper than the objects and titles we possess. Our contentment is deeper the relationships in our lives. Our contentment lives deep under the waves and the storms and the sunshine. It resides in the stillness of who we are in the present moment and our ability to move from that place.Read More
Songs are written about it. People die for it. Everyone has it.
And guess what, it’s not love. It’s power. The times, they are a-changing and what power once was is slowly starting to evolve. What is it? Why do we all have it? How do we not get lost inside of it?
I tend to have a high tolerance for wading through the unknown. It doesn’t bother me so much that my day-to-day or week-to-week fluctuate a large amount because I know that I’m still moving in the general direction towards the things I think I want. But what happens when we lose sight of what we want? What if that changes, as it might? How do we course correct and give ourselves the opportunity to realign our lives with our inherent higher purpose? Find the Vast Open Space.Read More
In my experience, it’s fifty-eleven times easier to show up for other people than it is to show up for myself. I recieved years of training on how to show up for other people. It’s a large part of my work. It feels like a part of my DNA. Try as I might, I just don’t know how to turn that part of myself off (and maybe that is a fantastic thing). “Showing up” is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot in the communities I’m a part of. What does that mean though? How do you do that for other people? How do you do that for yourself? It is a powerful message of solidarity: no matter what you uncover about who you are, about this mess we’re in, I’m here with you.Read More
People and experiences are meant to flow in and out of our lives. They all have a season, admittedly some seasons are longer than others. So why would I continue to look for any sense of stability in the very things I know are not meant to last forever? The two things that will always be there for me? Me and this earth.Read More
When my worth is rooted in my body: That ass. Those hips. That waist. Those lips.
When my worth is rooted in who I am: That mind. That drive. That passion. That integrity.
You are more than an arm, a thigh, an ass, a stomach.
You are more than eyes and hair and breasts and penciled in eyebrows and smooth legs from shaving.
You are more than one thought, one story, one moment.
You are more and you deserve more.
Let’s use our language to change the conversation, change the thoughts, and change the world.
Today, we look at the story of hitting the bottom. This is what Brene Brown calls the physics of vulnerability. When we cultivate vulnerability, inevitably, we will fall. Hard. We will break down. We will hit the messy, painful bottom and then we will build ourselves up again. The building back up is resilience.Read More