Posts tagged Advocate
Rewriting the Narrative

It’s been nearly six months since I left New York. I’ve come back once again - this time, to rewrite the story between me and New York. One of the most power lessons I’ve learned this year is rewriting the narrative. This concept doesn’t mean lying to myself about the truth of what happened. It doesn’t mean pretending that trauma and hurt did not occur. It is, rather, the act of framing my part in my own story less as the victim and more as an active participant in my own narrative. Events happen to victims. Protagonists create the action. I am ready to be the protagonist. 
Are you ready to engage with the story of this last year and rewrite your narrative? If your 2018 was as deeply traumatic and painful as mine, this is your opportunity to turn all of the incredible hurt into lessons. 

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The Fallacy of "Belief in a Just World"

Though Monday and this whole week has been hard, I’m incredibly grateful for it. They say that relationships, of any sort, with other people allow us to hold a mirror up to ourselves so that we see who we truly are. The final mirror that was held up to me in this relationship was that I function in a fallacy called “belief in a just world”.  What is “belief in a just world? How do we dismantle it?

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Make It Work

On our drive back form Big Sur, we started down the PHC, watching the sunset, the rolling hills, and the expansive ocean slip by. Nate turned on The Joe Rogan Experience.  I was half asleep because of my carcolypsy, the 30 miles of terrain we covered, and the epic game of Ultimate we joined in on after making some new friends on the beach. In a moment though, I shook myself out of my half-sleep to follow the threads of logic in the conversation between Joe and Jordan Peterson. Here’s the thing that hit me hardest, that shook me awake: we have to “find a way of being that works even under the direst of circumstances”.

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How To Advocate for Yourself

I look back on all of the times that I have held myself back because I didn't think I was worth fighting for; I look back on all the times I didn't take the risk or say how I feel or use the voice that I was gifted. I hope that I am the last generation of young women who were trained from a very young age to be smaller, to speak softer, to hide under the pretense of civility, to sacrifice everything for another person, to acquiesce because it is the easier, though probably more damaging, path. Don’t let other’s fear of your personal power deter you from standing in your truth. Know your worth. Tell yourself your truth. Speak up, speak out, and let go.

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