Posts tagged love yourself

In the yoga practice, ahimsa is one of the five Yamas, or moral vows. We tend to think of nonviolence and how it relates to beings outside of the self: eat plants not animals. Don’t hurt other people. Be kind and compassionate in thought, word, and action. This basic social contract is incredibly important in creating a world in which all beings can thrive. But what about ahimsa in relationship to the self? It’s hard to take the concept of ahimsa and turn it reflexively back on the self especially when so much of the harm we do to ourselves we rationalize as beneficial. “If I just push hard enough, it will be worth it.” Let’s unpack the three main categories of violence towards the self and how we can practice ahimsa to create a better relationship with our very own souls.

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Unfilled Time and Space

I firmly believe though that right thing for you will always happen at the precise moment when you make space for it. No space means no space to fill. I came out to the West Coast with nothing but space and time. It was that freedom that allowed me to rebuild a life that is sustainable and thrive-able. That doesn’t mean there are not challenges and fluctuations and friction.  These qualities are inherent in growth. It does mean, however, that generally I cry less from frustration and more from joy. Give yourself space to be with yourself. You will thank you.

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More than a Body

When my worth is rooted in my body: That ass. Those hips. That waist. Those lips.
When my worth is rooted in who I am: That mind. That drive. That passion. That integrity.
You are more than an arm, a thigh, an ass, a stomach.
You are more than eyes and hair and breasts and penciled in eyebrows and smooth legs from shaving.
You are more than one thought, one story, one moment.
You are more and you deserve more.
Let’s use our language to change the conversation, change the thoughts, and change the world.

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Meeting Discomfort with Grace

Discomfort is inevitable. It will happen. I know I am not alone in this when I say that I have spent most of my life trying to avoid discomfort. Avoiding discomfort (read: big feelings and thoughts that often materialized in visceral ways) led me to really horrible patterns of substance abuse, high risk behavior that I knew triggered a dissociative response in me, and a long battle with an eating disorder. It also led me to the yoga practice. The yoga practice taught me how to meet discomfort with ease and grace.

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